As the school year wraps up and we head into summer, there’s a big shift happening—for kids and parents. Routines change, schedules get looser (or way more packed), activities shift, and even the weather plays a role. Some kids ease right into the transition and are counting down the minutes until summer break. Others? Not so much.
Whether your child is excited, overwhelmed, or a mix of both, this season brings a lot of changes. And while older kids have done this before, younger school-aged kids are still learning what to expect—and how to handle all the big feelings that come with it.
Even if your child is thrilled to be done with school, you might still see some big feelings and big reactions in the first few days or weeks. That’s totally normal. Here are a few things that might help if your family is feeling the summer shift:
1. They’re still learning how to “feel their feels.”
You might see more whining, repeated questions about what’s happening each day, clinginess, or loud expressions of frustration. This doesn’t always mean something’s wrong—it means they’re trying to figure it out. Try making a simple calendar with pictures or words to show what’s coming up. Talk through the next day at bedtime and invite them to ask questions. A new camp, a new babysitter, or just the lack of structure can feel like a lot. Answer questions honestly or find the answer together!
2. Sleep and snack routines are probably off—and that matters.
Late nights, skipped naps, long days in the sun... it all adds up. When kids are tired or hungry, their reactions might not match the situation. Try to be flexible while still keeping an eye on their basic needs. Sometimes a snack or a quiet morning at home makes a world of difference.
3. Don’t overschedule—kids need down time and screen breaks.
Summer is full of awesome opportunities, but packing in too much can backfire. Children learn best through play! Free play, unstructured time, and breaks from screens help kids reset and recharge. Whether playing alone or with friends, this time can be used for imagination and creativity.
4. You’re their safe place.
Does your child hold it together all day at camp and then come home and have a hard time when they get the wrong color cup?Congratulations, it means they trust you enough to let it out. Is it easy in the moment? Nope. But you’ve got the tools to help them feel safe and work through it….keep reading!
5. Modeling and co-regulation go a long way.
Deep breaths. Counting to 10. Taking a break. These aren’t just for kids—we need them, too. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s okay to step away, regulate yourself, and come back ready to help. Your calm presence teaches them how to calm themselves, too. Also, take a moment to look at the environment. Can you lower the noise, dim the lights, or offer a cozy blanket? Small changes like these can really support a child’s ability to regulate
6. Build in simple feelings check-ins.
Find a regular time—maybe dinner or bedtime—to check in on feelings. You can use something like “rose, bud, thorn” (something good, something you’re looking forward to, something hard) or “thumbs up/thumbs down.” The goal is to create space and normalize talking about all the feelings, not just the happy ones.
7. Too much unstructured time can feel overwhelming.
Some kids thrive with structure—others seem to do okay without it, but still hit a wall. School days are full of predictability, and summer is... not. Pay attention to your child's body language, mood and behaviors during unstructured time. If you notice your child struggling with too many choices, try offering a simple “choice board” with 2–3 options and a rough idea of how long each one will last. A visual timer can help, too.
8. Sensory stuff ramps up in the summer—for them and for us.
Sunscreen, bug spray, swimsuits, shorts, hats—these can all be tricky for kids with sensory sensitivities (even if it wasn’t an issue last year). Try practicing wearing these at home in a low-pressure way before heading out for the day. And don’t forget—you might be overwhelmed too. Summer means more noise, more mess, and more time together. If the stickiness, stinkiness, and chaos are wearing on you, you’re not alone. Remember to regulate yourself before responding to those big emotions that may be going on around you.
Summer is a time of change—and that can bring excitement and anxiety. Some kids are missing their teachers and routines, while also being pumped about camp or staying home more. These mixed-up feelings can be confusing, and that’s okay.
Do your best to stay present in the moment. Enjoy this time with your kids, validate those feelings, and give yourself grace. You don’t have to do it perfectly—just being there and showing up matters. Take care of yourself, too. (Seriously.)
If you’re reading this, you’re already doing an amazing job!
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